Showing posts with label Blogaholics Anonymous. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Blogaholics Anonymous. Show all posts

Monday, December 30, 2013

Blogaholics Anonymous

We've been playing games together. Card games. Silly games. Games with Grandma, because Grandma likes games.

And I've been taking photos. Lots of photos. Getting out of my comfort zone and shooting a lot of candid, indoor shots. Capturing Christmas memories.

This morning we're off to a local state park for breakfast in an old Spanish sugar mill. Note to self: Don't forget your camera!

Here are a few links I found this weekend that I thought you'd like.

Giving the baby back - A foster mom shares her thoughts. "I give them back because they are not mine. And this is not about me."

Learning to Measure Time in Love and Loss - written by an adoptive father, this is a beautiful piece about accepting the constraints of our lives.

this Christmas - Stefanie, from Ni Hao Y'all, shares how her family celebrated Christmas a little differently this year. I love what they did!

Anyone else still in Christmas vacation mode?

Sunday, September 22, 2013

Can We Just Give Other Moms a Break?

A couple of weeks ago, one of my Facebook friends asked a question.

"Do you think that kids today throw fits at older ages than they did in years past?"

As the opinions rolled in, I felt myself getting more and more agitated.

The traditional wisdom that kids only throw fits when it works for them was a common thread.

In other words, if a 7-year-old is melting down in Wal-Mart, it is definitely because he has parents who have given in to tantrums in the past, teaching him to throw a fit whenever he doesn't get what he wants.

Kid throwing a fit in public = a bad / permissive / weak-willed parent.

While many of the comments were kind and sincere, others adopted a superior tone. Not one commenter confessed her own bad parenting that resulted in her own kids throwing fits well into their elementary years. Nope. This was all about the other moms out there.

It wasn't wrong for my friend to ask the question. She's the mom of two very active little boys, and I suspect she had personal reasons for wanting to know. And I'm not trying to blow the discussion that followed into something it wasn't.

Maybe I'm just touchy.

Thing is, I know a few big kids who still melt down in public.

Each one of them has a hidden special need.

First, there's the kid who had a mild brain injury at birth. He looks normal on the outside, but he and his mom face ongoing learning and behavioral struggles that are baffling to them both.

Then, there's this beautiful child who is autistic. He has the world's best parents. Place this child in a group of same-age peers, and you can't tell the difference at first. But it doesn't take long to notice that something about his behavior is off. There always has to be an adult, ready at a moment's notice to remove him and keep him safe if his behavior becomes explosive.

Finally, there are our kids adopted from hard places. 

So when you see a big kid throwing a terrible-twos style tantrum in public, I recommend that your first thought be, "There's probably more to this story than meets the eye." And then I recommend compassion.

Because the mommas in these situations are dealing, first of all, with parenting a child whose daily challenges are exhausting. Second, as if to add insult to injury, they find themselves judged by strangers. Judged according to traditional parenting wisdom when their situations are anything but traditional.

Give them a break.

"But how can you know for sure?" you might ask.

You can't. That's why you choose to give them the benefit of the doubt.

I choose to give them a break because really, the only person's parenting I need to evaluate is my own. That's the one situation where I have all the facts. That's the one situation where I can make a difference. I own that one.

Dealing with my own parenting challenges is a full-time job.

And by the way, I'm not so sure that the kids of this generation are so much worse than the kids of previous generations.

"Kids these days. . . "

Haven't people been saying that since the beginning of time?

Links - Because I Love to Share What Others are Saying

A Plan of Attack for My Picky Eaters - Traditional parenting wisdom says, "If they get hungry enough, they'll eat whatever you put on the table." But what if they won't? What if your newly adopted child will lose weight before she touches most foods? What if mealtimes trigger outbursts on a regular basis? Nancy shares her heart and her plan of action for her pickiest eaters.

Dear parents, you need to control your kids. Sincerely, non-parents - This dad takes on a single man who is criticizing a mom because her child is melting down in the grocery store. This one goes on my list of posts I wish I'd written myself.

It's like a theme park for your peace of mind - If you happen to be on the receiving end of criticism related to your parenting, this one's for you.

Sharing at WFMW.

Saturday, July 6, 2013

Day 6: Others Share About the First Days

These three posts by parents who adopted older children paint a picture of what their lives were like in those first days. Take a look!

What We Wish We Had Known

Is it really Day 6 already?

Six posts in six days -- I'm on a roll!

What an encouraging bunch you are! I loved how on Day 1 so many of you introduced yourselves, sharing your stories.  Today, would you take a moment to comment again, sharing at least one thing that's impacted you over this first six days? What are you taking away from this series so far? Did anyone take my suggestion on Day 1 and make an adoption toolbox on Pinterest? And finally, if you could ask me (and our guest bloggers this month) anything, what would you ask?

When you hit enter, your comment will be saved. As soon as I take a look at it (and determine you're not spamming me with promotions for your fake purse business, or your cheap prescription drugs, or your questionable website. . . ), I'll publish it. You can do this. Speak up, and let your voice be heard!

Friday, June 28, 2013

7 Quick Takes Friday

It starts Monday. 31 Days of Preparing to Parent. . . when you're adopting an older child. 

I'm so excited. The guest posts throughout the month are going to be great. Adult Adoptees. Therapists. Adoptive Parents. I hope you'll check in every day. And I hope you'll help me spread the word.

I've been thinking of doing this series for a long time. But posting ever day -- for 31 days? I was intimidated and a little afraid to fail.

Then, I saw this on Nester's blog. And I was inspired to go for it.
Lara Casey

Since this blog is going to be unreservedly devoted to all things older child adoption for the month of July, the next six quick takes will be totally random!

For years I've been basically using my fancy DSLR camera as a point and shoot, but today is the first day of the rest of my life, and I'm learning to shoot in manual. Yes, I am. I'm taking a class called Manual 'n More from Nancy over at Ordinary Miracles and the Crazy Nine. Today's assignment: Grab your favorite model and take a photo to upload to the class website. I picked Julia. The above photo represents the starting place for my work. I hope to take Nancy's Lightroom 101 editing class when I graduate from Manual 'n More. Get ready. Gorgeous photos coming your way soon.

This time last year I was begging someone to put me into a medically induced coma for a few days while Nathan went away to camp for the first time. I poured out my heart in a post called Missing Someone, Sniff. . . Sniff. Well, it's here again. Summer camp. This weekend. Help!

Guess what's arriving at my house next Friday? Stitch Fix #4. I was completely happy to take a break from Stitch Fix for a while, but then you guys went crazy ordering Stitch Fix fun for yourselves through my referral link. So now I have a pile of Stitch Fix credit burning a hole in my pocket. What's a girl to do? Oh my, I'm deliriously happy anticipating what my stylist will choose for me this time. You'll have to wait until August to see the photos. Because me modeling trendy, pricey clothes really has nothing at all to do with preparing parents to adopt older kids. In the meantime, you can read about my previous Fixes here.

Here's the post that made me laugh the hardest last week: Kristen Howerton's the time the kids and I drank beer at Target.
Here's the post that made me think the most last week: Scooping it Up's Two Cents on why it's OK to be Disgusted by Ms. Deen.

Lastly, here's a post that I didn't expect to love as much as I did: Glennon Doyle's I Love Gay People and I Love Christians. I Choose All.

Have a great weekend, and be sure to drop by Monday morning!

For more Quick Takes, visit Conversion Diary!

Friday, May 31, 2013

Blogaholics Anonymous - Soccer Tryouts Edition

Crazy time of year around here. School ends, and soccer tryouts happen.

I think every family has to find their thing -- the thing they do to relax and spend time together. For us, it's soccer. Mike coaches. . . the girls and Wenxin play. . . Nathan and I watch their games and sit in the shade reading during practices.

The weather here is beautiful year around, and the fields attract tons of families with kids of all ages. We make friends and hang out together. It's our family's thing.

So here's this week's Blogaholics Anonymous. As you can see, I've been reading up on youth sports.

10 Types of Youth Sports Parents - Cracked us up! Mike and I laughed our heads off this morning as we read this blog by a sports dad. If you've ever had a kid in youth sports, you'll be able to relate.

10 (More) Types of Sports Parents - More of the same!

Should Women Play Sports?  Until recently, I had no idea that there were people who consider it unbiblical for Christian women to train as competitive athletes. I pretty much disagree with everything in this article, but considering my love for listening to all points of view, I thought I'd post it here. I find his choice of photos especially interesting. For the record, I believe a Christian woman can be a strong, competitive athlete and still be godly and feminine. That's where I stand.

Sharing at Ni Hao Ya'll and WFMW.

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Saturday, May 18, 2013

Hot, Tired, Happy . . . Blogaholics Anonymous

It's been a hot one today - A day for sunscreen and a cooler full of Gatorade! Both Katherine and Wenxin played in soccer finals, and both teams brought home second place trophies. We are hot, tired, and happy.

Remember, I'm a blog addict, an information junkie. I read decorating blogs, home organization blogs, adoption blogs, political blogs -- anything that makes me learn or think or laugh or grow. Here are a few posts I've enjoyed lately.

Examining Adoption Ethics: Part One - Jen Hatmaker isn't one to dodge hard topics. Here, speaking as an adoptive parent, she tackles the issue of corruption in international adoption. A must read.

12 Things Your Daughter Needs You to Say - If you are raising daughters in a Christian home, you want to listen to what Emily Freeman has to say. She's becoming one of my go-to authors for insight on parenting my preteen girls.

The Lost Daughters Discuss The Child Catchers by Kathryn Joyce - Part One of a Series - If you've been around here long, you know that I value listening to adult adoptees. Here, a group of adult adoptees discusses the Christian adoption / orphan care movement. What makes this discussion especially lively is that one of the adult adoptees is a Christian pastor.

The Lost Daughters Discuss The Child Catchers by Kathryn Joyce - Part Two of a Series -  Here, the same group discusses domestic adoption ethics.

We've Got Spirit! Check out my blue nails!

Ni Hao Yall

Monday, March 18, 2013

Blogaholics Anonymous

I got a little off my normal schedule this weekend. Saturday afternoon I posted The Art of Parenting My Preteen Daughter. If you didn't get a chance to read it, be sure and catch up today. Then on Sunday, I snapped  the adorable photo above of said preteen daughter being silly and sweet with Mike.

This Blogaholics Anonymous is coming a couple of days late, but the links are so good, I didn't want to wait until next weekend to post them.

I'm a blog addict, an information junkie. I read decorating blogs, home organization blogs, adoption blogs, political blogs -- anything that makes me learn or think or laugh or grow.  This blog addiction serves me well as I learn to parent my child from the hard places. Every week I share my favorites with you here at Death by Great Wall. 

You must jump OUT of the Trauma Tornado - when parenting trauma background kids, the parents have to be the first to change. This is a simple, easy-to-understand explanation of why we have to parent trauma kids differently.

a letter to my 4 year old on her birthday - Birthdays are perfect times to remember birth parents, even when your child is only 4 years old.

This is not a gray area. What do you do when you fly overseas to pick up your new child, only to find out that she has living family members -- a mother even -- and they haven't relinquished her. How do you pray about your adoption? How do you ask others to pray?

How Magic Johnson Became My New Favorite Basketball Player - This Dad is with his family in China, right now, adopting twins. The fact that both his new children are HIV positive no longer frightens him.

Ni Hao Yall

Friday, March 8, 2013

Mothering a Traumatized Child

Three links for you today. All written by moms.

She Ponders: Mean Words - Realizing that third grade boys are bad mirrors for the self-esteem of a young girl, this wise mom called in some better mirrors to help weed out mean words. 

My Learning Curve: Stuck Like Glue - Yes, there are consequences to behavior. But when you are parenting a child from a hard place, the consequence might be different from what you'd expect. Because family life is really nothing like orphanage life.

Through the Eyes of a Traumatized Child - What's wrong with that kid? Why are you going so easy on him? This mom explains trauma behavior and therapeutic parenting in a way we can all understand.

Thursday, February 28, 2013

Guess What's New At My House?

Been a busy week around here. My new potty is lovely, indeed. It looks like a work of art, and Mike says it's supposed to be able to flush a bucket of golf balls. But we aren't going to try that.

I'll spare you the rest of the details since I've got some great links to share this week.

Remember, I'm a blog addict, an information junkie. I read decorating blogs, home organization blogs, adoption blogs, political blogs -- anything that makes me learn or think or laugh or grow. Here are a few posts I've enjoyed lately.

The Sexy Wife I Can't Be - A Christian wife bears her soul over at A Deeper Story.

To C or not to C - That is the question you'll have to ask if you adopt an older boy. Ouch!

On why I'm not giving up food or drink for Lent - Food for thought from one of my favorite bloggers.

Friday, February 15, 2013

Don't Be Jealous, But . . .

I'm at Empowered to Connect today. With my husband. And no kids.

I'm so excited to hear Dr. Karyn Purvis in person. You can look forward to a blog post early next week in which I'll gush about all we learned.

As I'm running out the door this morning, I'll leave you with this week's Blogaholics Anonymous.

Remember, I'm a blog addict, an information junkie. I read decorating blogs, home organization blogs, adoption blogs, political blogs -- anything that makes me learn or think or laugh or grow. Here are a few posts I've enjoyed lately.

My Learning Curve: P.L.A.C.E - Adopting the best attitude when interacting with kids from hard places.

Wisdom Wednesdays: The First 60 Days Home - Keeping it real about the early days of an international adoption.

My Train Wreck Conversion - how a leftist, feminist, lesbian college professor, who hated Christians, became one.

How to Fall in Love With Your Home - If you have a Pinterest board full of dream houses, here's a 40 day challenge to fall in love with the home you already have.

Friday, February 1, 2013

Blogaholics Anonymous

I'm a blog addict, an information junkie. I read decorating blogs, home organization blogs, adoption blogs, political blogs -- anything that makes me learn or think or laugh or grow.

Grab a cup of coffee and enjoy this week's posts.

Singled Out - This blogger recently shut down her very popular blog over concerns for the privacy of her two adopted sons. So happy to see she's started blogging again under a pseudonym at this new site -- still serving up an honest view of older child adoption in real life.

The Girl Who Got Away - "Most Americans think sex trafficking is something that happens somewhere else to someone else, if they think of it at all." The girl in this story could be any of our daughters.

Dan and Me: My Coming Out as a Friend Of Dan Cathy and Chick-fil-a - a gay rights activist forms a friendship with Dan Cathy of Chick-fil-a based on respectful conversation.

Why My Support For Abortion Was Based on Love. . . And Lies - Few of us are on the fence about abortion rights. Most of us easily declare ourselves to be pro-life or pro-choice and probably don't feel the need to read another abortion article. But this one, by a former atheist turned Catholic, made me think.

Friday, January 18, 2013

Blogaholics Anonymous

I'm a blog addict, an information junkie. I read decorating blogs, home organization blogs, adoption blogs, political blogs -- anything that makes me learn or think or laugh or grow.

You may have noticed that I tend to like edgy posts -- things that force my thinking out of my comfort zone. If you've noticed that, you are correct.

I think it's especially important for us as parents to continue to learn and grow and have our thinking challenged. I'm convinced that listening to others, often  people I don't totally see eye to eye with, has made me a better person and a better parent.

So here are seven selections from this week. You don't want to miss a single one.

The Changing Face of China's Orphans - Why has the adoption of healthy Chinese baby girls slowed down? Part 1 of a series by Amy Eldridge of Love Without Boundaries.

Changing Attitudes - What a difference 10 years makes. Why Chinese now are more open to daughters. Part 2 of a series.

The Adoption of Boys - Today 50% of children entering China's orphanages are boys. Part 3 of a series.

Domestic Adoption on the Rise - Adoption is catching on in China today - meaning many Chinese orphans can now find a forever family in their own country. Part 4 of a series.

Dear Christian Who is Praying for an Infant to Adopt - A Christian leader who is an adult adoptee asks Christians to think about what they are really saying when they pray for an infant to adopt. You don't have to agree, but I dare you to read it, and think about it.

How I try to make a small difference - A mom considering an adoption plan for her baby chooses instead, to parent. I love how her friend (who happens to also be a birthmom) is providing the support that helps keep mom and baby together.

The open adoption spectrum? Or something better. - Openess in adoption is defined by more than just contact with the birth family. This new model presents adoption as more nuanced than simply open or closed.

Calling Guest Bloggers

Did you see the first post in my series, On Being Adopted? Susan did a great job sharing her story as she reminded us that there can never be too much love. Susan's beautifully written prose brought tears to my eyes.

I still have a few spots open for February. I’m looking for guest posts which:

· Tell a personal story that illustrates some aspect of your experience as an adoptee. I know that your adoption experience is many-faceted and complex, but please choose one aspect to focus on in your post.

· Are 500 – 900 words in length

· End with the statement: One thing I’d like adoptive parents to know is . . .

· Pieces previously published on your personal blog may be submitted as long as they are tweaked to fit the above guidelines.
As far as topics go, the list of possibilities are endless, but here are some questions that I, as an adoptive parent, would love to see addressed:

· How did being adopted affect you at different stages of development? Especially, how did your experience of being adopted change as you entered your teen years?

· What challenges has being adopted present for you in your adult years?

· If you are in reunion, could you tell a story that illustrates some aspect of that experience?

· If you were adopted internationally, have you visited your birth country? Could your share a story that illustrates some aspect of that experience?
I believe there will be great interest in this series. I hope I will receive a variety of submissions that taken together will help paint a picture of the adoptee experience, promoting understanding and perhaps, dispelling some myths.

Please send submissions to You may simply type your submission in the body of the email or attach it as a Word document.

Please edit for grammar, punctuation, and spelling. I will not be able to use submissions that require extensive editing. I do reserve the right to make minor grammar/punctuation/spelling edits. I will not, however, edit your content in any way.

Submitting a post, does not guarantee that it will be published at Death by Great Wall. I will, however, respond to all submissions within two weeks.

Wednesday, December 19, 2012

Bloggers with a Personal Connection to Newtown

A mom of a son with a violent mental illness. . . an adoptive  mom who also happens to be a psychologist. . . a homeschool mom who fell in love with Newtown and moved her whole family there . . . and a first mom who used to wonder where the child she relinquished was every time tragedy struck. These blog posts, by bloggers with personal insights to the Newtown tragedy, have helped me process things this week.

I am Adam Lanza's Mother - What would you do if your son had a violent mental illness and no one would help?

The Inconvenient Truth About Mental Health and Gun Control - Is it better mental health care. . . or gun control?

Newtown as I Know It - What would it be like to live in Newtown?

Were Any of the Children Killed at Newtown Adopted? - What goes through the mind of a mom who relinquished her baby for adoption when she hears the news from Newtown?

Sunday, November 18, 2012

Why I Don't Rest and Blogaholics Anonymous

Sunday morning and I'm home while everyone else is at church. Home for the second day straight. Trying to heal a torn tendon in my ankle.

Why is it that the only time I really feel like it's OK to rest is when I'm sick? 

I grew up with a strong work ethic. I grew up believing that rest was what you did when you finished all your work. Rest was a reward for a job well done.

Problem is, with a family of six, the work is NEVER finished. I can't even imagine what this means for moms with families bigger than mine.

I think I need a paradigm shift. I think that rest needs to become part of the natural rhythm of my life, even when there are a thousand things still screaming to be done. I doubt the change will come easily for me. It's really hard to change something you've believed all your life. You know what they say about teaching an old dog new tricks.

The good news is that since I've slowed down a little week, there's been more time for reading, so I have lots of good links to share today.

Time for this week's Blogaholics Anonymous. You know the drill. 

I'm a blog addict, an information junkie. I read decorating blogs, home organization blogs, adoption blogs, political blogs - anything that makes me learn or think or laugh or grow. Here's a smattering of posts I've enjoyed lately. Disclaimer: By posting these links, I'm not saying I endorse all the views expressed; but I am saying they made me think. 

He's Alive - A birthday celebration for a child who will never know his actual birth date

Adopting a Young Teen - Amy Eldridge of Love Without Boundaries shares insights on young teens who are about to age out of China's adoption program.

I've started telling my daughters I'm beautiful - Why it's important for moms to celebrate our own beauty in front of our daughters. This one was a wake-up call for me.

the secret behind a schedule that actually works - This sounds like a secret I need!

Tyler of 16 and Pregnant tells FMF Off - Hold on to your hats for some serious back and forth about the effects of adoption on adoptees and birth parents.

The "Ah-ha" Moment - I wish I did not have to link to this post. Brian Stuy reports on serious allegations of fraud in older child adoptions from China.

Also, don't forget to check out all the great posts at this week's Paint Me a Picture linky party. There's still time to link up one of your own posts.

Friday, September 28, 2012

Blogaholics Anonymous

I'm a blog addict, an information junkie. I read decorating blogs, home organization blogs, adoption blogs, political blogs - anything that makes me learn or think or laugh or grow. Here's a smattering of posts I've enjoyed lately. Disclaimer: By posting these links, I'm not saying I endorse all the views expressed; but I am saying they made me think. 

on how gender-stereotypes can damage our children - a must read for moms of girls.

Casting Vision in the Heart of a Child - love, love, love this post from my favorite parenting author.

Why I Think All Adoptive Parents of Older Ethiopian Children Should Cook Ethiopian Food (the longest title ever) - I think I found a new adoption blog to follow.  I love how this mama thinks!

Packing for a 10 day trip with Mike and the kids. We'll be working and visiting friends all across the great state of New York. Oh, and I forgot to mention our four soccer games this weekend. Need to take my vitamins and maybe have an extra cup of coffee and get going! Have a great weekend.

Thursday, August 23, 2012

Blogaholics Anonymous

Lots of good links this week!  Enjoy.

Good Bye - Viewing life from the perspective of a newly arrived older child.  This blogger really knows how to tell a story.

Attachment Tips - Calling all adoptive parents.  Here's a great list of practical ways to attach with your adopted child.

Parents, Please Educate Your Kids About Adoption So Mine Don't Have To - Blogger Kristen Howerton, from Rage Against the Minivan, created a firestorm over at Huffington Post yesterday with this gutsy post.

Sabbath Sailing - Just reading this article made me feel relaxed.  Would you consider "unplugging" on the Sabbath to spend time enjoying God's creation?

Shading the Truth to Ease the Fears of Adoptive Parents - A challenging post by an adult adoptee.  Do adoption professionals always act in the best interest of the child?

10 Ways to Help a New Mom - great post with great advice.  I'd love to have someone write something like this for moms adopting older kids.  In my experience those first few months are every bit as challenging as the first months with a new baby.

Dear 22 Year Old Me - What would you say to your 22 year old self?

Tuesday, August 7, 2012

Blogaholics Anonymous

I'm a blog addict, an information junkie. I read decorating blogs, home organization blogs, adoption blogs, political blogs - anything that makes me learn or think or laugh or grow. Here's a smattering of posts I've enjoyed lately. Disclaimer: By posting these links, I'm not saying I endorse all the views expressed; but I am saying they made me think. 

Invisible Milestones - "How's he doing?"  It's hard to measure attachment in an adopted child.

Extending Grace in Relationships - You don't want to miss this post by one of my favorite authors.

Raising an Olympian - How the mom of gold medalist, Gabby Douglas, made some "outside the box" decisions to help Gabby become an Olympian.

Sunday, July 15, 2012

Blogaholics Anonymous

I'm a blog addict, an information junkie. I read decorating blogs, home organization blogs, adoption blogs, political blogs - anything that makes me learn or think or laugh or grow. Here's a smattering of posts I've enjoyed lately. Disclaimer: By posting these links, I'm not saying I endorse all the views expressed; but I am saying they made me think. 

How Married Women Can Serve Single Women Better - I married at 36, and I ditto the message of this single Christian woman.

When Enough is Enough - Answering the question, "Do we adopt again?"

Before I Was Adopted - A  teenage girl, pregnant as the result of rape. Lied to by those who proposed to help her. Adoptive parents, overjoyed to be chosen to raise her child. Lied to as well. And finally, the adopted daughter who, as an adult, uncovers the truth for them all.

What I Learned from My Children:  Go Low -- A Path to Selflessness - A Christian perspective on the sacrifices of motherhood.

10 Tips for New Bloggers - I'm sure someone here is thinking of starting a blog. Or maybe you have a blog that you'd like to take to the next level. This is the post for you.

Friday, July 6, 2012

Warrior Moms (Blogaholics Anonymous)

Warrior Moms.

That's the term that comes to mind as I think of some of the moms I've met on our adoption journey.

Moms who choose to adopt kids who aren't babies anymore -- kids who come with more than their fair share of medical and emotional needs.  Moms who drag themselves out of bed every day, no matter how tired, and fight for their children.

On the outside they look just like other moms.  They may even color their hair, wear lipstick and love cute shoes, but make no mistake about it,  these ladies are warriors.  Today's Blogaholics Anonymous salutes four such moms.

He said IT - One adoptive mom's thoughts when her son looked her in the eye and said, "You're not my mom!"

Choosing to See - Another adoptive mom's thoughts when faced with spending the summer far from home so her daughter can get the medical care she needs.

Proof of Motherhood Required? - Get ready.  This one might make you mad.  We already love Karen here at Death by Great Wall.  She recently wrote a guest post where she shared that older child adoption is exhausting.  You're not going to believe what happened to her this week.

"First?" Bilateral Amputee to Ride Ripstik? - You have to see this. 

Are you a warrior mom?  It's OK.  Go ahead and admit it.  Now think for a moment. What helps you keep perspective and keep fighting for your child?  Leave a comment and let us know.